complications of relationships

the time or length of a relationship can never really be the basis of the success or strength of the love of the couple.

one of my good friends have been with her bf for 4 yrs ... but they just broke up coz the guy cheated on her. she saw the text message of #2 saying "we'd be happier if *name* is gone" ... something like that. i don't know what went on in the relationship that brought about the cheating but there's a couple of things i'm sure of

it hurts like hell to be cheated on

the guilt for the cheater is also a killer (except if he/she has no conscience)

it's hard to get over the person or 'move on' ... it would take a long time

the pain or situation cannot be ignored by just merely going out or dating other people coz sooner or later, the feelings will haunt you ... and when it resurfaces again, it ain't a pretty picture (especially when you're with someone else already)

i told my friend some of my opinions ... some of which are based on personal experiences. i hope she gets through it. she deserves a much much better person.

it's scary to think that people who have been in love for so long can just suddenly have a change of heart in just a snap. you think that he or she is the one ... you are sure coz everything fell in place ... you are sure coz he/she is everything you ever dreamed of ... you are sure coz he/she is perfect then you get married. then kaboom ... he/she's gone.

often, you can't explain what happened or maybe you've been too blind to see that the relationship is really going astray. i'll be leaving you guys with lines from kelly price's song ... you should've told me.

It's funny that I never thought about it that way
I never knew the things that I did not say
But you were lonely and you were hungry
And I was living in my own world
Thinking I'm a perfect lady

You should've told me
I wasn't smart enough
You should've told me
I didn't call enough
But you led me on
And kept me going
And we never should've wasted this time
You should've told me
I wasn't wild enough
You should've told me
I didn't smile enough
What you had in my mind
Made me lose my mind
And we never should've wasted this time

When it was time for work didn't see you off
When your tense didn't give a massage
I never told you I think you're hot

When you thought you had to lie
Why didn't you come and tell me why?
Didn't you see those tears I cried?
Oh why?